Miyerkules, Oktubre 29, 2014

9 Things You Can Do Today That Will Improve the Quality of Your Life
Sometimes, we tend to get so caught up in the everyday parts of life that we forget what we were put on Earth to do: live a really, really awesome life.

Here are 9 things you can do right now that will improve your quality of life.
    
1. Call a loved one
There’s always that loved one who makes us light up when we speak with them, but life just gets in the way, and we let weeks slip by without saying a word.
Shoot them a text, or give them a call. You know that talking to them will totally make your day.

2. Make a list of everything you’re thankful for
Okay, this might sound super cheesy, but practicing gratitude is a great way to boost your spirits. Sometimes, we all need a little reminder of how lucky we are.

3. Watch something funny
Did you know that laughing is actually really good for you? It can lower stress, strengthen your immune system, and even burn calories. Plus, it releases endorphins, which will put you in a better mood. Put on your favorite stand-up routine or watch a funny movie.

  
4. Plan your day
Sometimes, we can get down in the dumps a little just because there are so many things to do. But really, if we just had a plan, it would all be totally doable. Make a plan for the rest of your day and stick to it. Don’t forget to leave a little room for relaxation!

5. Wear your much-loved outfit
Looks aren’t everything of course, but it’s undeniable: when you feel attractive, you’ll feel happier. Put on your favorite outfit and admire yourself in the mirror!

6. Start saving up for something you’ve always wanted
Is there something that’s a little out-of-range financially that you’ve always wanted? Perhaps it’s a big screen TV, or maybe a beautiful bass guitar.
Make a little section of your bank account devoted specifically to that one thing, and start setting aside a small portion of your pay check every week for that thing. 

7. Plan a day trip!
Been so busy that you’ve just had no down time? Today, schedule a day trip for a few weeks from now with a few loved ones to a nice place somewhat close by, whether that’s the beach, a hiking trail, or an awesome city. You’ll have something awesome to look forward to!

8. Help somebody out
Another cheesy one, but really—isn’t it the best feeling to help somebody? Go out of your way to assist someone in a time of need, whether that’s a stranger or your best friend.
  
9. Go on a nature walk
Go outside and appreciate nature. Take a camera along, and maybe a blanket, a picnic, and a book. Relax and soak it all in.
Remember: life is pretty great.

Jim Rohn’s Advice on Living a Quality Life

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Sabado, Oktubre 18, 2014

A Habits that separates RICH people and Poor one: Your autopilot mode can make you wealthy or poor.

Intelligence, talent and charm are great, but more often than not these aren't what separate the wealthiest among us from the poorest.
Instead, the differences are in our daily habits. Do you realize that these subconscious, second-nature activities make up 40 percent of our waking hours? That means that two out of every five minutes, all day and every day, we operate on autopilot. It’s true: Habits are neural pathways stored in the basal ganglia, a golf ball-size mass of tissue right in the center of our brains, in the limbic system.
This neural fast lane is meant to save the brain energy: When a habit is formed and stored in this region, the parts of the brain involved in deeper decision-making cease to fully participate in the activity. However, we all know that there are good habits and bad habits.

Some of the differences between rich and poor are obvious, while others are a little more surprising. 

Here are the most important Rich Habits you can take up to reach and maintain your wealth potential.

1. Read every day.
Reading information that will increase your knowledge about your business or career will make you more valuable to colleagues, customers or clients. Among wealthy people, 88 percent read 30 minutes or more every day. Just as important, they make good use of their reading time:
▲ 63 percent listen to audio books during their commute.
▲ 79 percent read educational career-related material.
▲ 55 percent read for personal development.
▲ 58 percent read biographies of successful people.
▲ 94 percent read current events.
▲ 51 percent read about history.
▲ 11 percent—only 11 percent—read purely for entertainment purposes.
The reason successful people read is to improve themselves. This separates them from the competition. By increasing their knowledge, they are able to see more opportunities, which translate into more money. Comparatively speaking, only one in 50 of those struggling financially engage in this daily self-improvement reading, and as a result the poor don’t grow professionally and are among the first to be fired or downsized.

2. Spend less time surfing the Internet.
How much of your valuable time do you lose parked in front of a screen? Two-thirds of wealthy people watch less than an hour of TV a day and almost that many—63  percent—spend less than an hour a day on the Internet unless it is job-related.
Instead, these successful people use their free time engaged in personal development, networking, volunteering, working side jobs or side businesses, or pursuing some goal that will lead to rewards down the road. But 77 percent of those struggling financially spend an hour or more a day watching TV, and 74 percent spend an hour or more a day using the Internet for recreational purposes.

3. Control your emotions.
Not every thought needs to come out of your mouth. Not every emotion needs to be expressed. When you say whatever is on your mind, you risk hurting others. Loose lips are a habit for 69 percent of those who struggle financially. Conversely, 94 percent of wealthy people filter their emotions. They understand that letting emotions control them can destroy relationships at work and at home. Wait to say what’s on your mind until you’re calm and have had time to look at the situation objectively.
Fear is perhaps the most important negative emotion to control. Any change, even positive changes such as marriage or a promotion, can prompt feelings of fear. Wealthy people have conditioned their minds to overcome these thoughts, while those who struggle financially give in to fear and allow it to hold them back.
Whether you fear change, making mistakes, taking risks or simply failure, conquering these emotions is about leaning in just a little until you build up confidence. It’s amazing how much confidence helps.

4. Network and volunteer regularly.
You’ll build valuable relationships that can result in more customers or clients, or help you land a better job if you spend time pressing the flesh and giving back in your community. Almost three-quarters of wealthy people network and volunteer a minimum of five hours a month. Among those struggling financially, only one in 10 does this.
One incentive of volunteering is the company you’ll keep. Very often the boards and committees of non-profits are made up of wealthy, successful people. Developing personal relationships with these folks will often result in future business relationships.

5. Go above and beyond in work and business.
Unsuccessful people have “it’s not in my job description” syndrome. Consequently, they are never given more responsibility, and their wages grow very little from year to year—if they keep their jobs at all. Wealthy individuals, on the other hand, make themselves invaluable to their employers or customers, writing articles related to their industry, speaking at industry events and networking. Successful people work hard to achieve the mutual goals of their employers or their businesses.

6. Set goals, not wishes.
You cannot control the outcome of a wish, but you can control the outcome of a goal.
Every year, 70 percent of the wealthy pursue at least one major goal. Only 3 percent of those struggling to make ends meet do this.

7. Avoid procrastination.
Successful people understand that procrastination impairs quality; creates dissatisfied employers, customers or clients; and damages other non-business relationships. 
Here are five strategies that will help you avoid procrastination:
▲ Create daily “to-do” lists. These are your daily goals. You want to complete 70 percent or more of your “to-do” items every day.
▲ Have a “daily five.” These activities represent the crucial things that will help you get closer to realizing some major purpose or goal.
▲ Set and communicate artificial deadlines. There’s nothing wrong with finishing early.
▲ Have accountability partners. These are people you team with to pursue a big goal. Communicate with them at least every week, and make sure they hold your feet to the fire.
▲ Say a “do it now” affirmation. This is a self-nagging technique. Repeat the words “do it now” over and over again until you begin a task or project.

8. Talk less and listen more.
A 5-to-1 ratio is about right: You should listen to others five minutes for every one minute that you speak. Wealthy people are good communicators because they are good listeners. They understand that you can learn and educate yourself only by listening to what other people have to say. The more you learn about your relationships, the more you can help them.

9. Avoid toxic people.
We are only as successful as the people we spend the most time with. Of wealthy, successful people, 86 percent associate with other successful people. But 96 percent of those struggling financially stick with others struggling financially.
If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to evaluate each of your relationships and determine if they are a Rich Relationship (with someone who can help you up) or a Poverty Relationship (with someone holding you back). Start spending more and more time on your Rich Relationships and less on your Poverty Relationships. Rich Relationships can help you find a better job, refer new business to you or open doors of opportunity.

10. Don’t give up.
Those who are successful in life have three things in common: focus, persistence and patience. They simply do not quit chasing their big goals. Those who struggle financially stop short.

11. Set aside those self-limiting beliefs that holds you back.
If you’re hurting financially, you've probably told yourself some of these untruths before: Poor people can’t become rich. Rich people have good luck and poor people have bad luck. I’m not smart. I can’t do anything right. I fail at everything I try.
Each one of these self-limiting beliefs alters your behavior in a negative way. Almost four out of five wealthy people attribute their success in life to their beliefs. Change your negative beliefs into positive affirmations by reading lessons from the greats of personal development, like Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie and Jim Rohn.

12. Get a mentor.
Among the wealthy, 93 percent who had a mentor attributed their success to that person. Mentors regularly and actively participate in your growth by teaching you what to do and what not to do. Finding such a teacher is one of the best and least painful ways to become rich.
If you know your goals, find someone who has already achieved them. You’ll be amazed by how many people want to lend a helping hand.

13. Eliminate “bad luck” from your vocabulary.
Those struggling financially in life have a way of creating bad luck for themselves. It’s a by-product of their habits. Poverty Habits, repeated over and over are like snowflakes on a mountainside. In time, these snowflakes build up until the expected fall—a preventable medical problem, a lost job, a failed marriage, a broken business relationship or a bankruptcy.
Conversely, successful people create their own unique type of good luck. Their positive habits lead to opportunities such as promotions, bonuses, new business and good health.

14. Know your main purpose.
It’s the last Rich Habit, but it might be the most important. Those people who pursue a dream or a main purpose in life are by far the wealthiest and happiest among us. Because they love what they do for a living, they are happy to devote more hours each day driving toward their purpose.
Odds are, if you are not making sufficient income at your job, it is because you are doing something you do not particularly like. When you can earn a sufficient income doing something you enjoy, you have found your main purpose.

Believe it or not, finding this purpose is easy. Here’s the process:

1. Make a list of everything you can remember that made you happy.
2. Highlight those items on your list that involve a skill, and identify that skill.
3. Rank the top 10 highlighted items in the order of joy they bring to you. Whatever makes you happiest of all gets 10 big points.
4. Now rank the top 10 highlighted items in terms of their income potential. The most lucrative skill of all is worth 10 points.
5. Total the two ranked columns. The highest score represents a potential main purpose in your life.


As you can see, the differences between rich and poor are simple—sometimes natural—but not insignificant. Aim to take up all of these habits, and you’re almost guaranteed to become better off.
You can change your life and reach your goals, all by making small tweaks to your daily routine.

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Life Changing Tips to help you get more out of life.

If you feel it's time to make a new start then take time to look at this top 20 tips to help you change things for the better and get the best out of life.


Life-changing tip 1: Travel the world
If there could be a possibility, then you should make sure you fit some travelling in. Okay, you might think that you do not have the time or the funds to go on a round-the-world trip, but it certainly is a truism that ‘travel broadens the mind’. If you can’t manage that backpacking trip around the globe, then consider going to some far away location where the experience will be totally different — perhaps even life-changing — rather than settling for the usual same destination and not going anywhere unusual.

Life-changing tip 2: Change your job
If your job is getting you down, then change it. The only one preventing you finding something that you’ll enjoy more is only you. If only people could put as much energy into finding a new job as they do into complaining about it, then they could mark a major change to their lives. Your workplace is where you spend a large amount of your time, so it’s important to try and be as happy there as you can be.

Life-changing tip 3: Change your routine
Having a regular routine can be a safe option, but can make your life a little more exciting as well. Try changing something in your routine, such as taking a different route or method of commuting into work. If you’re one of those people who usually say ‘I can’t do that on Tuesday because I normally do …’, then break that cycle and try to do things in a more spontaneous manner. Just because it’s Friday doesn't mean you always have to eat fish!

Life-changing tip 4: Have a goal
It’s a must that you always have a goal in mind — whether it is saving up for that new house and lot or that new car or that trip around the world, or alternatively realizing some career ambition. If you don’t have anything to look forward to, then you can quickly become bogged down and will be continuously just living to work rather than the other way around. Having an objective to work towards keeps you being motivated and helps prevent you from just drifting along and falling into a rut — so make sure you always have a particular goal in mind.

Life-changing tip 5: Do something that scares you
Overcoming a fear by completing a challenge is the best feeling a person could ever feel. If there’s something that you've perhaps always imagined doing but have been too scared to do it, then just go for it! Do it! There are many people out there who have been trying out zip line riding and some are doing skydiving, for example, and described leaping out of a plane as a ‘life-changing experience’ — and then have gone on to complete challenge after challenge because of the buzz they get from it.

Life-changing tip 6: Write your autobiography
Putting down your life story into writing will inevitably make you think about it — including those things that have gone right so far and those that haven’t. Although you’ll not necessarily intend to let other people read it (although it might let others understand you better if you do!), it will help you to reassess your life and think about the direction in which you want it to go. It may also be a good way of exorcising some of your demons and reinforcing your beliefs.

Life-changing tip 7: Get more active
If your lifestyle involves coming home from work and slumping in front of the TV every evening, then it might be time for a change of tack. We’re not necessarily talking about becoming an Olympic athlete, of course — but we are suggesting you to get more active. You could introduce some exercise into your day simply by walking — for example by taking the stairs instead of the elevator. And if you take some more rigorous exercise, then it’s likely you’ll start feeling a lot healthier in a short span of time.

Life-changing tip 8: Get a new image
Your image might be the one thing you feel is holding you back and making you lack confidence. If you had that same old tired look for ages, then this could be the time to change your appearance in some way. Spend some money on yourself and get a new hairstyle, buy a new wardrobe of clothes, and just do things to make you feel as though you are special. It’s amazing how you can feel more comfortable and confident in certain clothes when you make the effort — so make an effort more often!

Life-changing tip 9: Sleep more/less
Some people just don’t get enough sleep, while others have far too much — the end result of which will be a feeling of constant tiredness. Getting the right amount of sleep will make you more alert and able to relish doing things and get more out of experiences during your waking hours. Plus, one added bonus of sleeping less is that it enables you to fit more things into your day. After all, as they say, ‘you have all the time to sleep when you’re dead’.

Life-changing tip 10: Change your diet
‘You are what you eat’ is a much-used phrase, and it may be that your diet is making you feel pretty rotten. Just changing a few things can have positive health benefits as well as give you more energy and make you feel better all the way. Of course, there are a lot of advice's out there (some of it are contradictory!) — But generally, eating everything in moderation is the best way to go. Also, making sure you drink enough water and get your five portions of fruit and vegetable are two of the golden rules to follow.

Life-changing tip 11: Change your outlook
If you think negative thoughts all the time then that’s exactly how you’ll feel! Think positively! Smiling a lot and being positive will transform you into a more optimistic person. It has been said that people are only as happy as they allow themselves to be — and if you can put aside negative thoughts and be more optimistic, then that will transfer itself to how you feel about life in general. There is even an evidence that says, “people who smile a lot actually live longer”!

Life-changing tip 12: Change your friends
There are some people who just want to drag you down or use you as an emotional crutch for their negativity. While we may want to be there for people who need us, there is no need to be constantly brought down to their level. Some people can be just plain bad for you and surround you with so many negative vibes that you just don’t want to listen to them anymore. If that’s the case, then don’t put yourself through it and get some new friends instead!

Life-changing tip 13: Read more
Books are often a great source of inspiration, and new ideas and can often have a major impact on you. There are people who will swear by certain ideas put forward in a book and actually live their life by them. Autobiographies of people who have overcome insurmountable odds or had that certain stroke of luck that we’re all looking for can often act as a great inspiration — and may even lead you to consider making some life-changing decisions.

Life-changing tip 14: Buy a pet
Owning a pet is thought to have health benefits such as helping lower blood pressure and being good for your general mood. Having a pet — in particular a dog — will lead to increased activity levels because they need to be taken for regular exercise. Pets can also help relieve your stress and anxiety by promoting laughter and affectionate behavior.

Life-changing tip 15: Say ‘yes’ more often
Don’t be the sort of person that is always turning an invitation down. If you say ‘no’ that often, then people will eventually stop asking you! So, stop looking for excuses not to go out, and make a promise to yourself never to turn an invitation down (within reason, of course!). You never really know what is going to happen — and it’s quite often the nights out that you initially have low expectations of that end up being the most enjoyable.

Life-changing tip 16: Watch less television
The number of hours of television being watched by many people these days is so great that, after the time you spend asleep and in work, it is probably the one activity that takes up most of your time. Watching less TV will free you up to follow other (hopefully more healthy) pursuits. Making this change will have a positive and radical impact on your life — and also on your general health.

Life-changing tip 17: Give up alcohol
Too many people rely on alcohol as a means of relaxation or escapism, and while there are some health benefits from drinking alcohol in moderation (red wine being a good example), the benefits of not drinking cannot be stressed enough. Try giving up alcohol — even just for a trial period — to see if you feel any better. Realistically, most of us are not going to become teetotalers, but the there are many people who have given up and not regretted it whatsoever.

Life-changing tip 18: Employ the ‘three-minute rule
Write down three things you have been trying to achieve — whether it’s changing bank, sorting out your photo album or a career change — and give yourself a month to get them done. When you decide to tackle one of your chosen tasks, set your alarm clock to buzz you in three minutes, then concentrate on the task in hand. One step at a time will do. You’ll find that once you have broken the fear of starting something, you’ll be fired up to get it done.

Life-changing tip 19: Treat yourself
It’s not always possible to put yourself first, and all too often people actually forget that they deserve to be treated well too. If you keep waiting for others to treat you well, then it might never happen. Make a resolution to treat yourself every now and again by putting yourself first, so that you get what you deserve at regular intervals. It’s one way of guaranteeing that at least one person is going to be good to you in your life — and that person is you!

Life-changing tip 20: It’s your life, so live it
Keep reminding yourself that it’s your life and you are the one responsible for making yourself happy. Other people can add to your happiness, but ultimately it comes down to you to get the most out of life, as nobody else can force you into making positive changes which may improve you a  lot. So, don’t keep waiting for things to happen for you, as life may just pass you by. Instead, take each day by the scruff of the neck, and learn to make the most of the time you have. Live your life to the fullest!



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Lunes, Oktubre 13, 2014

3 Essential Things to Have a Confident Mind-set 
By: Ariel S. Rabaya





Being confident takes effort. It is a state of mind that fluctuates as we react to our circumstances, mood, physical health, and a whole host of unknown subconscious factors.
My life’s work is about understanding how to maintain this powerful mindset. Based on the theory that true ‘happiness’ is really about feeling self-confidence, I have devised all sorts of ways to build and maintain high self-worth.



Here are the 3 things to help you maintain yours.

1. Try to give rather than get
Most people try to get things out of life. This is the quickest way to push the things you want out of your reach. I wish someone had explained this to me when I was younger.
In order to “get”, you must give. And you must give fully, with no condition or expectation of reward. Try to think of life as deal in VALUE.
To receive value, you must first give it. Make giving value the goal of every interaction. When you are talking to someone, ask yourself How I can give this person the opportunity to leave here better than when they came in?
This does NOT mean people-please. When you people-please, you are not giving, you are trying to get. Get liked. Get friends. Get approval. Get a reputation as the Nice Guy.
Giving is about ensuring that the person receives what they want, not what you want. Ask before you give help. Ask permission to serve others. Expect nothing in return.
You will be rewarded. This reward will not be what you think you want, but it will be what you actually need. You’ll just have to trust yourself.

2. Slow it down
Mindfulness is now one of the most central concepts in my life.
I have learned that true happiness comes from being present, curious and aware of what is happening in real-time. There is a time and place for mentally drifting, such as getting creative or planning, but for the most part confidence comes from the simple joy of being present.
We are all so damn BUSY. We thrive on busyness as a coping mechanism to avoid boredom. People are busy from the moment they are awake, all the way through the work day, until the moment they sleep. They go a million miles per hour and without even being aware of what they are doing.
Rather than doing a billion things a day, do what’s important and do it well. Figure out what actually matters to your goals. Most stuff doesn’t, but we keep ourselves busy with crap to avoid the uncomfortable stuff that does matter.
Try this: no responsibilities for a week. No internet social media scrolling. Spend a week only doing the important uncomfortable things, and SLOWLY participate in life rather than rushing around.
Soak it all in – you only ever get to do anything once. Enjoy it.

3. Vulnerability Is Invincible
For too many years I hid everything negative about myself. My anger, my dislikes, my disagreements, and mostly, my weaknesses.
It was like dragging around a massive concrete ball. Constantly having to be hypersensitive to what I was saying and revealing. I treated conversations like defusing a bomb; with the utmost care and concern.
As I started building my confidence, I experimented with disclosure. I started slowly but tentatively revealing the darker aspects of myself. This was one of the hardest things I have ever done.
The result shocked me.
None of the bad things I thought would happen actually came to end. Instead, I was met mostly with love, understanding and sympathy. People seemed to like me more when they learned about my weaknesses. They certainly appreciated the honesty and shamelessness.
When you are completely vulnerable, when there are no secrets left, you become invincible. No one can use your weaknesses against you, because it’s all out in the open. It’s like having someone trying to bluff you in poker when you can see their cards.
For some reason it really inspires others. You gain instant trust and affection from people when you open up. This does not mean complaining or unloading your trauma on them. It just means being honest when you don’t know what to do, when you doubt yourself, and when you have feelings of shame about your behaviour.

Just remember: everyone else has these problems too. If you can be bold enough to reveal it, you will help others find peace with their own darkness.




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Linggo, Oktubre 5, 2014

13 Things That You Usually Do That Prevents You from Being Successful
By: Ariel S. Rabaya
                                                                  
Do you know why the chances of becoming a huge success is so low? Because it’s insanely tough. But at the same time, the changes you can make in your life to exponentially increase the odds are actually very simple. Simple, but not easy. It’s all in your mind. Are you ready to make major changes in your life? Let’s get to it.
Here are the 13 reasons why you will never be successful in life.
1. You push off Responsibility
Accept full responsibility for every single thing that happens in your life. Don’t blame others. Don’t blame circumstances. Don’t blame what you lack. And definitely don’t blame your luck. You will always have choices to make in every situation, and these choices will always have consequences.
Take 100% responsibility of yourself. Make the right choices, because they will either steer you that bit closer to your goals, or away from them. Success is nothing but a series of all the right choices you make. If you want something, got get it yourself. You’re in charge. Period.
I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul. ~ William Ernest Henley
2. You Procrastinate
Understand the cost of being a procrastinator. It is like a credit card. You have a lot of fun while at it, but wait until you get the bill. Procrastination is deadly.
I don’t care what your reason for procrastinating is. The Law of Diminishing Intent states that if you don’t take action soon after the idea strikes you and the emotion is high, fairly soon the urgency starts to diminish. And the longer you wait, the less likely you will ever get the job done.
Start off by making the decision to declare war on your procrastination devil. By just being aware that you need to be at an endless battle with this devil, you are already ahead of the majority.
Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy. ~ Wayne Gretzky
3. You are a Perfectionist
Perfection does not exist. It is only a great excuse not to get started. Do your best; strive to be good; strive to become better than you were yesterday; but forget perfection. Because if your work truly matters to you, you will never ever reach that state anyway.
You just need to get started. And then again tomorrow. And again the day after.
You can accomplish nothing if you are preparing for the perfect timing and waiting around. All you need to do is apply what you've learned and take massive action.
Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. ~ Napoleon Hill
4. You are afraid of Criticism
If you are going to be achieving anything great, expect tons of criticism and haters. Learn to handle them.
In any case, do not let the fear of criticism stop you from doing what you have to do. You do not have to please everyone. That’s a sure route to failure. This is your mission. This is your life. Let’s do this.
To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. ~ Aristotle
5. You are afraid of Failure
Do things for success, but expect failure along the way. Failure is absolutely necessary. Failure is a life lesson designed to bring out the best in you. If you are too afraid to fail, then don’t start.
It’s okay to have some fear, but don’t be too discouraged when you do fail. Because it’s not about how many times or how big you fall, it’s about how many times you’re willing to get up and try again. And I hope you answered that with, “as many times as it takes.”
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default. ~ J.K. Rowling
6. You are darn Lazy
If you’re putting in the same amount of work as the people around you, consider yourself lazy. This is a competitive world, and if you want to stand out at all, then prepare yourself mentally and work two times harder than everyone else. If others work five hours, you work seven. Work your butt off. It pays. And forget your partying that can’t help you achieve your dreams.
Formula for success: rise early, work hard, strike oil. ~ J. Paul Getty
7. You lack Originality and Creativity
You are already lazy. It’s not any better that you are doing the same thing everyone else is doing. You need to be unique if you want to stand out as well.
Be original and get those creative juices flowing. Dare to be different from the crowd. You can get ideas and inspiration from others. You can even copy to a certain extent. But in the end, be your authentic and genuine self. People are dying to see the unique you, and not another copycat.
Trusting your individual uniqueness challenges you to lay yourself open. ~ James Broughton
8. You play it Solo
We humans were biologically designed to flourish together. Success does not come by our self.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Learn to genuinely connect with others and work together. Support one another. Likewise, help and offer value to others. You cannot expect to receive when you don’t give.
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a progress; working together is a success. ~ Henry Ford
9. You are Ungrateful
Being grateful increases your level of happiness dramatically. You will be much better equipped to face life’s challenges when your natural state is full of joy, happiness, and gratitude. Happiness leads to success, and not the other way round.
Start adopting an attitude of gratitude and if need be, keep a gratitude journal. Look around as you read this. I bet there’s at least one thing that would make life very different for you if you lost it. And make no mistake, this is not a chance for you to settle with what you have. Being grateful and settling are two very different things.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ~ Brian Tracy
10. You fail to Learn from your Mistakes
Along the way, you’re going to make a tons of mistakes. Accept them with humility. Those are some free life lessons. Approach every mistake you make as a special learning experience sent to teach you something valuable and necessary for your success in the future.
Einstein says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Learn from your mistakes and do not repeat them.
Learning from your mistakes is an essential skill that enables you to develop the resilience to be a master of change rather than a victim of change. ~ Brian Tracy
11. You don’t Believe in Yourself
“He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right” (Confucius). Drop all your self-limiting beliefs. If you want something with a strong enough passion, you will find ways to make the impossible happen. The only limits you ever set up for yourself are all in the mind. Change them.
You are unstoppable. Dream big because you are destined for greatness. Believe that you will be a big success. You already have everything it takes to crush life. All you have to do right now is succeed.
When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve. ~ Napoleon Hill
12. You Lack Consistency
Consistency is crucial to your success. Develop the habit of showing up all the time, whether you feel like it or not. The pro doesn't give himself excuses. He just gets the work done. Short bursts of fiery enthusiasm will not cut it.
Come up with a system for yourself and make sure you stick with it. Deciding and succeeding to hit the gym four times a week is far more superior than deciding to hit the gym seven times a week and failing to execute three times. Yes, even when the outcome is the same, because you are training your mind to be weak by not doing what you say you will do. That weakness will rub off negatively on other areas of your life.
Long-term consistency will always trump short-term intensity.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~ Aristotle
13. You have Stopped Growing
Successful people understand that they need to sharpen their skills all the time. They understand that once they stop, they will fall behind the competition. They're made the decision early in the game to become excellent and the top in their field.
The moment you stop growing and learning is the moment you truly fail. That includes your personal development and all other areas of your life. In fact, the moment you decide your level of personal development is enough, that’s when you become a failure of life.
Your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development. ~ Jim Rohn



I've learned along the way that if you truly want to succeed, you have to focus on one thing at a time and master it. Don’t multitask. It is true that all 13 are essential for your success, but you are setting yourself up for failure if you try to master all 13 life changes simultaneously. Slow and steady wins the race. Pick just one and focus all your energies on it. If I were you, I’d choose consistency.

Good luck, and to your success!

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